Is Social Media Making Us More Vain

Is social media making us more vain? That is the question..

If you break the words apart, social media is a means by which we can get more social. And that’s what social media was intended for – to make socializing with others easier and faster. But has it done only that?




As times goes on, I’ve noticed another side to social media, especially on Instagram with the craze for likes and followers. Although social media works great for networking, and as a communication tool, it also seems to have unleashed a vain side in most of us.


Now the questions are – Is this healthy? Is this something we should be concerned about? Is it even true that social media makes us vain?


Here are some of my thoughts:


Social media encourages us to share our personal lives.

Starting from the design of each social media platform, the developers made it extremely easy for every user to share their lives in little or great detail.

You can write long status posts (except for twitter which allows only 140 characters) recounting your day and sharing your feelings. And most times it’s centered around you. Because sharing what’s happening around you so easy, you find yourself reporting every incident of your life as soon as it happens.

Each post you create is focused on your life. Very few people post content about others without mentioning how it affects you or what role you play.


You are in almost every picture you take and its first stop is always social media

Only a few people take pictures without posting on social media these days. Except the photo is not a good one. The automatic response to every picture we take on our phone is – will this picture look good on social media? I wonder how many likes this photo would get? I am not sure about you, but I know I think about these 99.9% of the time when I take a new photo.

Videos are also not left out of this equation.




Social media can provide the avenue for celebrity status

There is the craze for increasing the number of followers on social media. A good number of social media users create content and take photos and videos that will attract the interest of their followers and possibly attract more followers. So social media can provide an avenue for celebrity status.



In most aspects, social media is definitely encouraging us to be vain. Psychologists who have studied social media users’ behaviours and responses to social media were also of the same opinion. But is this social media vanity that bad? I don’t think so. I think a little bit of vanity is good as long as it does not take over your life.

Social media, whether it encourages vanity or not, has helped give us – bloggers, a voice and a platform to showcase our talent. And what if it makes us a little vain. This vanity is good as long as it doesn’t swallow you up.


What do you think? Has social media made you more vain? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Thanks for stopping by.


30 Blog Post Ideas for Lifestyle Bloggers

Do you suffer regularly from writer’s block? Have you ever felt panic when you have nothing to write about and can’t think of anything worth writing about? Sometimes circumstances beyond our control get in the way and we hardly have any time left to work on our blog, but most times we could struggle with new ideas especially when life gets in the way.



I have put together 30 blog post ideas to help give you a head start whenever you are lost for ideas. I hope you find them handy.

  1. Favourite blog posts of the week

As much as you would love more people read your blog posts, it’s also good to share blog posts written by other bloggers. This is not a way of driving readers from your blog. It’s more about sharing specific blog posts that you feel your readers will appreciate and learn from.

You can start by putting together a list of 5-10 of your favourite blog posts with a short piece on why you found it useful.

  1. Goals for the month

Sharing your monthly goals is a great way to keep you accountable as well as inspire your readers to set goals themselves. You can do a follow-up each week on how the monthly goals are looking.

  1. Quote of the day/week/month

A quote is only a couple of sentences long but they are loaded with inspiration. Pick a quote you love and write what it means to you. You can also write a list of quotes you love. They are always a great source of inspiration to your readers.

  1. Outfit of the day (OOTD)

I do this a lot on Fashion and Style Police. Sharing your outfits and why you like them makes awesome blog posts. My OOTD posts are usually very popular.

  1. Your childhood memories (Blast from the past)

This may sound a little strange but let’s face it, you must have learned a lot about life when you were younger. Use these memories as a source of inspiration or a means to teach an important lesson that you think your audience will find useful in their lives. To make it really fun, you can add a picture of you as a child.

  1. Write a letter to your younger self

This sort of blog post is actually quite popular. It’s a way to reminisce about your life and share with your readers the mistakes you have made and what you would have done differently if you were given the chance. This is a great way to touch your readers especially your younger audience who are still trying to find themselves in life.

  1. Why did you start your blog?

This is a great way to go back in time and share with your readers why you started your blog. It’s a nice way to guide aspiring bloggers or newbies who frequent your blog for inspiration. It also gives the opportunity for your readers to know how their favourite blog came into existence.

  1. Your best blogging tools

So you’ve had your blog running for a while and of course, you learned a lot of things about blogging. Why not share them with your readers? You can start off with the tools you use in your blog and what worked the best.

  1. Your favourite blog post

Now this is not exactly the same with “Favourite blog posts of the week”. Favourite blog posts is about your favourite blog posts on your blog. You could write about the best performing blog post and take it deeper by letting your readers know what made that blog post so popular.

  1. Roundups for the week/month/year

Roundups are the easiest blog posts to create. It can be about absolutely anything. You can make a roundup of advice from experts, fashion tips, and so on. It is just a list post that acts as a great frame of reference.


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  1. Things you don’t know about me

Creating a post where you get to share something about yourself is a great way to establish a strong relationship with your readers. Write a list about some details about yourself that your readers don’t know about. Chances are that there will be some people who can relate with you.

  1. Share pictures of your workplace

This is a great way to get personal with your audience. Showing your audience a part of your life is a nice way to get them involved. Share pictures of your workspace and tell them why you arranged it the way you did and the must have items on your workspace.

  1. Your pet peeves

We all have them, don’t we? Share your list of pet peeves with your audience and let them know why they get to you.

  1. Question and Answer Posts

Most times you get emails from readers who ask you questions. Why not answer those questions with your readers? Let one blog post be an answer to a question. This way you get to help more people with similar problems.

  1. Challenge of the week/month/year

Challenges are a great way to keep your readers engaged. Just like your monthly goals, weekly or monthly challenges are a great way to stir your readers to action. Share your action steps on how you plan on meeting the challenge. You can also create follow-up posts.

  1. How you got over your epic failures

Blog posts sharing your experiences make great content. Share your failure and what you learned from them. You can also write about what you would have done differently if you could turn back the hands of time.

  1. What are your biggest successes

Your readers are always willing to learn new things. Share with them how you attained your success. You can go specific by stating action steps that they can help them immediately.

  1. What are your fears

We all have fears. Share your fears and how you were able to get over them or what you are doing to get over your fears.

  1. Your top productivity hacks

Who doesn’t like to be productive? Share your favourite productivity hacks and how they saved you from very sticky situations.

  1. Your top life hacks

Life hacks are those tips and tricks that helped you work effectively and live better. Share your life hacks and if you have got a story behind them, share it. That makes the blog post relatable.


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  1. List of your favourite podcasts

I am loving podcasts at the moment, they are very popular right now. Recommend some of your favourite podcasts and what you like about these podcasts.

  1. List of awesome things you’ve done for the week/month/year

This is another way of sharing your experiences with your audience. Tell them about the activities that you tried out, how it made you feel, why you did them and what you learned at the end.

  1. List of monthly must haves

What are those things that you bought or got your hands on this month that you believe will be very useful for your audience? Share them with your audience and why you feel they are useful and why they should get their hands on them. You could also write about a particular product, service, or place in a review style.

  1. Interviews with people who inspire you

Interviews make great content. All they involve is for you to write the questions you asked and your guest’s reply. Interviews are great ways to share other people’s experiences with your readers and reach a wider audience.

  1. Top things that you would pack in your suitcase

Do you love traveling? Share some of the things that you would carry in your suitcase, and why you pack them.

  1. Your favourite places to travel

These posts act as great travel suggestions. Talk about your experience, the places you went to and why you would love to go back, or why you won’t be going back.

  1. Top things you can’t live without

Depending on what’s on your list, this kind of post works well as a way to make product suggestions. Make sure that you explain in detail why the things you listed out are important to you.

  1. Your fitness routine

Share how you keep fit. Write about your favourite exercises, diets and smoothies. You can also share your fitness schedule so that your readers can follow your routine.

  1. Your morning routine

The quality of your day is defined with how you start your day. Tell your audience what you do in the morning and how it has helped you improve the quality of your life.

  1. Your bedtime routine

How do you close for the day? Share with your readers the exact steps you take every night and how they have helped your life and why you do them.


I hope you are feeling inspired to write-up a few posts now. Good luck and happy blogging.

5 Blogging Traits

Being a blogger is hard, very hard.  You are pretty much putting yourself out to be applauded, laughed at, trolled, admired, and all. It can be a little too much, and I can completely understand why many choose to abandon their blogs and dreams of becoming a pro blogger. I have been blogging for some years now, and I know I had to pick up a few traits I felt I needed to keep me going. God knows I would have abandoned this blog ages ago, if I didn’t have these traits.

The way it is now, I can never dream of abandoning Fashion and Style Police, it is like my first child. And you never abandon your kids, no matter what.




Here are some of the traits that have helped me so far in my blogging career –



I would have stopped blogging ages ago if I didn’t have the passion for it. I enjoy writing. Having my own creative online space is the best thing ever! I have a strong passion for fashion and beauty, and I enjoy writing about lifestyle stuff every now and again. Without my passion, I would have given up a long time, and you won’t be reading this post.



I am a very strong willed, determined person. I know what I want and how to get it. I also make sure nothing gets in the way of what I really want; I usually find a way around it. This trait has kept me going. I won’t be where I am today if I was not a determined person. I am a fighter, and it affects everything I do.


Thick Skin

I have grown a thick skin over the years, and that has helped me greatly. Blogging is not for the faint hearted, I can tell you that for a fact, as everyone has an opinion about what you do and how you should do it, even though they may not really have a clue. A thick skin protects me from trolls, negative people, unsupportive people in my real life and the drama that comes with blogging in general. Having a thick skin has helped me in all aspects of life. I would be so fragile without one.



I am usually an impatient person, but as I have grown older and wiser, I have found myself being a bit more patient. And I believe that has helped my blogging career as well. Being patient means you can keep your head down, work on your blog, decline the collaborations that don’t work and embrace the ones that do work.



Standing out is one of the best things you could do for yourself as a blogger. Being unique means you have a blog name that stands out in the blogosphere, you blog about things you really enjoy writing about and produce unique content as often as you can. Being unique is one trait I believe Bloggers can never have too much of.


What personality traits have helped you in your career, business or hobby?