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16 things I would tell my 16 year old self

Being a teenager can be so hard. You feel no one really understands you, and sometimes it can get out of control for many. Luckily I was a responsible teenager. I didn’t get a lot of trouble and had great grades all through high school. I got my GCSEs a year earlier than my peers, and had the opportunity to go to university at the age of 16. Actually I went in few months to my 16th birthday.

I was quite young but very intelligent and street smart for my age. So I handled university quite well.

I read posts like this a lot on other blogs and I like them because they make you reflect and think deep. I would love to sit 16-year-old self down, and tell her a lot of things but these 16 things are the top on the list.

 

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  1. Know your worth, and don’t settle for anything less than what you want.
  2. Shine bright like a diamond, never let anyone dull your shine.
  3. Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.
  4. Embrace your strengths and your weaknesses. They make you who you are.
  5. Focus on your studies, so your grades don’t drop.
  6. Go for a university degree you have an interest in.
  7. Have a bit of fun. You are young only once.
  8. Take care of your skin. Drink more glasses of water and don’t sleep with your makeup on.
  9. Pay attention to your hair care. Stop wearing hair styles that destroy your hair-line, and get rid of the relaxers that break your hair.
  10. Learn how to drive, so your 30-year-old self doesn’t have to worry.
  11. Pay more attention to your skills and improve them.
  12. Get rid of toxic relationships/friendships. They are not needed.
  13. Don’t be afraid to stand out from the crowd.
  14. Start a blog.
  15. You know the difference between right and wrong, always stick with the right.
  16. Relax, everything would be fine in the end.

 

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What would you tell your 16-year-old self?

 

 

 

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How to make sure you keep your new year resolutions

By now you may have realized how difficult it is to keep the freaking new year resolutions right? It is usually fine for the first few days and even weeks. You are optimistic about the future and you have probably even seen yourself achieve your goals and aspirations for the new year.

 

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Fast forward to the second week and your enthusiasm is waning and you begin to wonder if you’ll ever keep your resolutions. Trust me, we have all been there.

Since the year is still fresh (this is only the second week), here are 3 ways you can make sure that you keep your new year’s resolutions.

 

  1. Have a clear purpose

Ever wondered about how easy it is to do the things you want to do compared to doing things you know you have to do?

When a goal is backed up with a clear reason why you should to reach that goal, you would do whatever it takes to achieve it. Purpose acts like a fuel that will move you to reach your goal. The clearer and more deeply attached you are to your purpose, the greater the enthusiasm and determination you have to make sure you are always on track.

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If you feel like you are slacking in your new year resolutions department, then re-assess your purpose for your resolutions and get in tuned with the reason why you want to achieve your goal.

 

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  1. Set milestones

The outcome you desire for the year could seem so far way, especially when you know that you have less than 365 days to the end of the year. Knowing that there is a lot of time for you to patch up your goal will make you slow down your progress. This is because you’ll feel like you have a lot of time on your hands to make sure that you fulfill your resolutions.

Setting up achievable “mini-goals” that will get you closer to your new year’s resolution is a great way to pace yourself and encourage you to keep putting in the work until you achieve your new year’s resolution.

Action Step #2

Break down your resolutions into smaller goals that you can work towards achieving daily, weekly or monthly. This will help make your resolutions more achievable, with clear milestones to work towards.

 

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  1. Reward yourself as you make steps to achieving your goal

Keeping a resolution or working towards a goal can be really hard. Most times, it is energy-sapping. If you don’t encourage or motivate yourself to keep going, you will want to abandon your new year’s resolution. Motivation is the key that can help keep you going.

When you are motivated, you are more prone to taking action. As you keep going, you start gathering momentum until it becomes a part of you.

Action Step #3

Reward yourself every time you make a step towards fulfilling your resolutions or nail your daily, weekly or monthly target.

The reward doesn’t have to be a big one. It could be anything like taking yourself out to the movies, treating yourself to a massage, or even enjoying a nice jar of freshly baked cookies.

Do you have any resolutions for 2017? How do you plan to keep them?

 

 

The Highs & Lows of the Self Employed World 2016

Happy new year everyone. I hope you all are having an amazing start to the year. I am currently down with flu (booo) but I am getting better. I have been under a lot of stress lately so I guess that is the reason for my body shutting down.

 

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We had an amazing time in Dubai, it was the best holiday ever and the kids had so much fun. But everything went wrong when we landed at Gatwick Airport. I stupidly picked up the wrong luggage (it was the exact size and design as mine and even had the same padlock), and someone else picked mine, and I didn’t realise until I got to the hotel room. I could open the box because it was the same padlock (can you imagine the coincidence, the same box and padlock on the same flight) but as soon as I opened it, I realised it wasn’t mine.

This has never happened to me before so I was in a very bad state. I usually tag my boxes but this box was a new one; a Tripp flowery black and red design, so I thought it was unique enough, well I thought wrong.

We had to make the long trip back to Gatwick twice the next day to pick up my box and to drop the wrong box. It was a very stressful period as you can imagine, all valuables were in there, but I am thankful the lady that picked my box was honest (she took it back to the airport and kindly sorted out a leakage in my box), and I am also thankful we were still in London. Imagine if we were back home in Cheshire, that would have been horrid.

The good thing is it would never happen to me again, I will always tag my bags boldly whenever I travel so I don’t pick a wrong box and no one picks mine.

 

Anyways back to the highs & lows of the self-employed world in 2016. I wrote a similar post in 2015, and it was nice to read it a year after.

There are so many highs and lows, so I will try to focus on a few to keep it brief.

 

The Highs

 

Writing a book

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I wrote an eBook last year – How to Cash In as a Blogger. It was released February 2016, and it is a dream come true. I always wanted to write a book and I am happy I got to fulfil this dream last year. This is the first of many books to come.

It is currently available exclusively on Amazon for £3.44 and free for Kindle Unlimited subscribers. It is a great book for new bloggers or bloggers trying to monetize their blogs, so do have a read if you have not done so already. And if you have read it, pretty please leave me a review on Amazon, I need those reviews like I need air.

 

Freelancing

I took the freelance industry by storm in 2016 and grew my portfolio. I currently do PR and Blogger Outreach for 5 brands and I am hoping to double this figure this 2017. I also do freelance writing for a few websites and I plan to grow my freelance writing business this year.

 

Fashion and Style Police turned 4

Fashion and Style Police turned 4 last October, and it is great to see how much the blog has grown. It has over 40,000 combined followers now, and I still have to pinch myself every now and again to be sure I am not dreaming. This blog has opened many doors for me and I am super grateful to everyone who reads, shares and comments. You guys are the real deal!

 

The Lows

 

Chasing Payments

This has always been an issue and it still is but hopefully I will be able to manage this situation better this 2017.

 

Unprofessional Bloggers

While doing blogger outreach for brands, I have had the opportunity to work with hundreds of bloggers. I have worked with so many lovely bloggers, and I can’t wait to work with them this year, but I have also had the misfortune of working with some unprofessional bloggers. These select few are giving bloggers a bad name.

The ones that stop communicating with you as soon as they receive the review products, and they never write a post. The rude and entitled ones that believe their blog is the best thing since sliced bread. The lazy ones that take weeks, and sometimes months to post but you can see them on social media chatting all day. I can go on and on.

The good thing is my little black book is growing and I will never work with such bloggers again. But it is a shame that these bloggers are giving the entire industry a bad name.

 

Burn Out

Last year was incredibly busy. It was so hard for me to juggle the blog and freelance jobs at the same time but I did somehow. The last quarter was the busiest, and I struggled to get it all done before the holidays but I got there in the end.

This year I am going to take more time off work to avoid losing my mind.

 

Overall, 2016 was fabulous and 2017 is even going to be more fabulous. I am so looking forward to it.

How was your 2016?