Loving ourselves unconditionally is really important. These days, it is so easy to compare ourselves and our lives with that of others. Social media makes it dead easy to scroll through the parts of our online friends’ carefully curated feed and wish our lives were as perfect as their lives. We see their perfectly filtered faces and bodies, and we wish we looked as good as they look. It is all nonsense. Social media is purely entertainment for me. I do find some of it informative but I know it is the curated life of others and not really the reality for many. Which is why I take what I see with a pinch of salt and focus on me.
Self-love is the best kind of love
Once you love your imperfect self unconditionally, you become free, free to just be you. You won’t obsess over what your online friends are doing with their lives or how perfect they look because you will be too busy living your imperfect life perfectly. We are all beautifully and wonderfully made, and we have our own uniqueness that makes us special. Focusing on that and loving every aspect of ourselves is how to fall deeper and deeper in love with our life.
Filtered lives online are becoming trendy. Many people feel like everyone else is living their best lives apart from them, but that is usually not the case. You never know what is really going on in the lives of others. What you see online is the version they are willing to share with their social media followers. It may not be their reality, which is why you should not envy others because you never really know. Instead, focus on you and shower yourself with love.
Here are 4 self-love tips you may find very useful –
Embrace your quirks and all
We are all very special and we have certain aspects of ourselves that are uniquely ours. The foundation of loving yourself unconditionally is to embrace all parts of yourself. Most times we may be tempted to dumb down our quirks in other not to stand out too much but we should really be doing the opposite. For instance, if you are registered on dating websites, putting your quirks out there would make it easier to find your perfect mate.
Now, this tip is a big one for me. I find that it is super easy to just take each day as it comes and not aspire to do anything ‘major’ with your life. Not living intentionally will do you no favours. You should aim high, dream big, and live every day intentionally.
Many of us would have made mistakes (or what we call mistakes) over the years. It is normal and all part of growing up. Forgiving yourself is really important when it comes to learning to love yourself unconditionally.
Set boundaries and protect yourself
With self-love, you need to set boundaries with others. Having healthy boundaries would protect you physically, mentally, and emotionally. You don’t want just anyone to have access to you or live in your head rent-free. Also, setting boundaries would help you say no when you need to say no, and get rid of people who do not want the best for you.
Do you have any self-love tips to share?
I totally agree with self protection!!!
Glad you do Sheila 😊
Great post and very important points. I tend to call it selfcare. If you have never done it it takes time to build it.
1/ A few of mine are, live one day at a time. You can’t change the past. Tomorrow never happens. Yes we have to plan to some extent. Its the projection and worry over what is to come
2/ Learning I am perfectly imperfect. I am not a robot so embrace all of me including what I perceive as my flaws
3/ By learning to be you, and not what anyone else thinks you should be. As you say boundaries
4/ Forgiveness of others and self forgiveness are so important. Resentments of others and yourself only bring inner turmoil. You can still set boundaries snd forgive. The same applies even if you have to remove someone from your life
5/ When I am in emotional pain it teaches me. Thats how I learn and grow
6/ Remember who you are today is set by your experiences. Embrace all of them. You are imperfectly perfect just as you are ❤
Wonderful tips Carol. Thanks a lot for sharing them!
Yes to self love! It’s the only way to be able to love others and be your best self.
Yes it is 😊
So true!!! I’ve just posted about self care, so important xx
It is really important xx
I can’t get enough of these reminders, particularly the part regarding boundaries.
Glad you like the post. Thanks for reading.
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