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The Loneliness of the Self Employed

I went full-time as a self-employed person about 2 years ago, and I can testify first-hand to how lonely a career it can be. Being a freelancer/self-employed person usually means you work from home alone, and some days can be a lot harder than others, even for the introverts.

 

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I have always been an introvert, I am very comfortable being by myself, and I do enjoy being alone most of the time. But sometimes I miss the chit-chat and the buzz that goes on in a regular workplace; being able to have meetings, bounce off ideas, and just the usual office banter. Just so you know, I was not a fan of any of these things when I had my normal job, but I guess sometimes we humans miss things we don’t have, even if we don’t really like it. Why we do, I don’t know, we just do.

The loneliness of being a freelancer is real, so I won’t advise anyone who enjoys being in the company of others to go self-employed, except you have a form of working arrangement that involves working or meeting regularly with other self-employed people in your niche.

There are ways to deal with the loneliness and frustrations of the self-employed world, here is how I deal with them –

 

Have a sounding board

Having a sounding board is very important when you are self-employed. A sounding board is someone you trust who would listen to your achievements, frustrations, and just someone you can have a chat with about your work, and who can offer you good advice as well. The more sounding boards you have, the better. I have one main sounding board, and a few others. They all help keep me sane. Whenever I feel like having a rant, I know I can trust them to listen. It also feels great to share milestones and achievements with them.

 

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Take regular breaks

Regular breaks are very important when you work alone from home, because you can easily find yourself working continuously on your coach, without taking a break for hours. Taking breaks means you get to do other things which is great for your mental health and fitness life. Taking regular breaks also means you can leave the house for a walk, which is great because you get to interact with others while you are at it.

I try to go for long walks everyday, and I love how fit I am. My Fitbit stats speak for itself.

 

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Working in coffee shops

Working in coffee shops also help combat the loneliness and isolation. I personally find working in coffee shops very distracting, so I tend not to do this, but I know many who do and enjoy it.

 

Joining Facebook groups and Twitter chats

I have joined a couple of Facebook blogging and freelance groups, and I also try to take part in as many Twitter chats as I can. These groups and chats help combat the isolation.

 

Overall, working from home works well for me. I won’t change my flexible working conditions for anything, but some days I need to have my Spotify playlists on repeat to get rid of the silence.

 

Do you work from home? How do you deal with the loneliness?

 

 

 

 

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Instagram Update

I am gradually falling more and more in love with Instagram. It took me awhile to get to this point with this social media platform because I couldn’t be bothered to understand it. So I neglected it, hoping it would just go away but it looks Instagram is here to stay and it has kind of won my heart at last.

 

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I love photography, and I am always looking to improve my photography skills. I am currently doing a Lightroom course online, and it is opening eyes to the many tricks of editing which I am loving. I am hoping to complete the course in the next few months and take the photography world by storm!

 

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This 2017, I am challenging myself to grow all my social media platforms especially Instagram. I currently have just over 3600 followers and I will like to see that number increase to at least 10,000 followers this year. I also want to increase the level of my engagement to at least 3%, so I have a lot to work on. Majority of my photos on Instagram are taken by me, and I would like to keep it like that, so it becomes my own little portfolio.

 

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I am also looking to get a camera with wi-fi for easy publishing on Instagram. My iPhone camera is amazing, and so is my iPad Pro but I am thinking of getting one of these Compact System Camera, like the Olympus Pen. They don’t come cheap so I have to think hard about whether I am happy to invest that much in a second camera. I have some cameras lying around, I may sell those first and put the money towards a new camera.

 

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I will be sharing regular Instagram updates on the blog going forward, so look out for the posts. I promise they would be worth your while.

What do you think of Instagram? How are you finding it? Any engagement tips or tricks to share?

Please sound off in the comments section below.

Thanks for reading. Have a lovely day.

 

 

This Thing Called Blogging

I fell in love with blogging many years ago, and I don’t see myself every falling out of it. I have always been a lover of reading and writing, for as long as I can remember. And that is what blogging to me is really all about. Everything else is an add-on; social media, making money, receiving product samples, going to events, and the likes. But sometimes I find myself feeling very frustrated with this thing called Blogging.

I started Fashion and Style Police because I needed a creative outlet. I was stuck in a career I hated with a passion, and I saw no way out. Plus I wasn’t a very happy person at that point in my life, so blogging kept me sane.I wrote a bit about this in my How to Cash In as a Blogger.

After setting up the blog, I thought of monetising it at some point but was not my main focus back then.

 

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I am now a full-time blogger, freelance writer and PR. I work from home, and I need to make a full-time income from these jobs, so making money off the blog without selling out is now a main focus for me. I love my blog and I can’t see myself ever not loving it, but some days, especially these last couple of days, I have struggled to stay motivated. On these days, I have zero interest in blogging, and I have no desire to do any online related work.

Obviously as an online entrepreneur, I can’t afford to continue to have days like this because nothing would get done, and there will be no money in the bank.

 

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Some of the annoying emails I get, offering me $20 for a guest post, also make my bad days even worse. And I am beginning to get more and more of these cheeky emails, many with even no budget.

The truth of the matter is many people underestimate the amount of work it takes to run a blog. Most times, you have to be in it to fully understand it, so I try not to let such requests bother me. I just politely decline and move on. After all, they are probably only the messenger, but sometimes it does annoy me. I do blogger outreach, and I won’t dream of contacting a blogger without offering a form of compensation. And $20 is not a reasonable compensation. No blogger should be accepting that, even if you have a domain authority of 1.

But then again, I have great collaborations I am currently working on so it is not that bad. The pros of blogging outweigh the cons massively so it is really not an issue.

Do you blog? How are you finding it? If you don’t blog, do you enjoy blogs? What sort of blogs do you enjoy reading the most?