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How to support someone with mental health issues

Mental health talk is so trendy these days, it makes me wonder if people even take it seriously. Or just talk about it to feel like part of the cool kids club. Many people are still struggling with mental health issues and have no one they can talk to. Which is shocking considering how mental health is so hot topic at the moment. But then again, I can see how difficult it can be to help someone having mental health issues. Many of us are truly helpless and have no ideas on how to reach someone who is already in a dark mental state.

 

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How to support someone with mental health issues

Here are some ways you could help someone dealing with mental health issues –

 

Speak with them

The first thing to do is to let the person know you are available as listening ear with no judgement. We all need someone to share our thoughts, hopes and feelings with. This is even more important when you are struggling with mental health problems. So being available for a chat would be one way to help.

 

Don’t judge

Many people rather suffer in silence than be judged by others. This is one of the main reasons why mental health sufferers don’t speak to anyone about their issues. You need to remember to listen without any judgement in other to support someone with mental health issues.

 

Get them to get help

If you can convince a mental health sufferer to speak with a doctor and get some professional advice, you may have just saved a life. Encouraging whoever is suffering to get help is the best thing you can do. It pays to stay calm and be patient as this will help more than you being pushy and anxious.

 

Help in other way you can

Apart from all the ways listed above, you can also help with general day to day activities for this person. So helping with childcare, school runs, cleaning, food shopping, company and so on will help massively. Many people struggling with depression and anxiety may struggle with day to day living, so helping when you can will help take the strain off them, and allow them focus on getting better.

 

Look after yourself

While looking out for others, make sure you look after your own wellbeing as well. It is easy to neglect our mental health while dealing with others, so make sure to check in with yourself every now ands again, to ensure you are doing great.

 

 

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You can’t pour from an empty cup

The older I become, the more I start to take good care of myself. The saying – you can’t pour from an empty cup is so true. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t care for others, which is why I now pay attention to my both my physical and my mental health. As a twin mum, it is so easy to put myself last every time. I still put myself last every now and again if I am being completely honest, but I am now conscious about the fact that I need to care for me in order to care for everyone else.

 

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The easiest way to avoid burning out is to make sure your cup is filled. Pay attention to your well being and mental health. Don’t neglect yourself in the process of taking care of everyone else. Ensuring your cup stays filled, depending  on your lifestyle, can be tricky in this day and age with so many responsibilities and distractions. But this is not something you should push aside. Here are some quick tips you can implement today to help you pay more attention to you –

 

Stay active

It is 2019 and there are so many ways to stay active, so no excuses. You could go to a gym or bring the gym to your house thanks to YouTube. There are so many fitness videos on the platform to get you moving. All you need is time, a good internet connection and dedication.

Going for walks is another way to stay active. The school run helps me get out and about on my feet. Walks are a good way of staying active. They are also great for my mental health as they help me clear my head.

 

Spoil yourself

You should ensure you spoil yourself every now and again. Do something you really enjoy at least once a day/week. It doesn’t have to be anything pricey or complicated, it could be as simple as reading a book you enjoy or watching a great TV show in the evening when the rest of the house is asleep. It could also be booking a massage session for yourself or getting your house cleaned while you just relax and unwind. Whatever it is you do, the most important thing is to make sure the activity leaves you relaxed and refreshed.

 

Get rest

The benefits of quality sleep are too many to mention in this blog post, but many of us already know all about the healing powers of sleep. Our body repairs itself while we sleep, so ensuring we get a good night’s rest is another way to keeping our cup filled. I am very grumpy when I don’t sleep well, so I make sure I get a decent amount of sleep every night to feel like myself. I aim for 7/8 hours of uninterrupted sleep every night.

 

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Say NO more often

I have never been a Yes person, but the older I have become, the more I now say NO. It is ok to say Yes if you want to and if you really mean it, but don’t feel obliged to do things just because someone is asking. If it is not convenient or it is too much of an ask, say NO. Say Yes to yourself more, yes to getting adequate rest, spoiling yourself, and just being there for yourself more. It is great for your well being and state of mind.

 

Follow your passions

Focus on yourself and follow your passions. You are of no use to anyone if you are unhappy or depressed. Your dreams and heart desires matter, so pay attention to them.

 

Healthy boundaries

There is power in having healthy boundaries because they create healthy relationship, that is best for everyone. While lack of boundaries create toxic  settings. Having healthy boundaries are great for your health and they help you stay mindful of you. I can go on and on about the importance of making sure you have your boundaries up when dealing with people. Healthy boundaries help you have great relationships with yourself and others.

 

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Stay away from toxic relationships

Speaking of healthy boundaries, toxic people don’t like boundaries. They like to suck the life out of people, which is why it’s best to stay away from them. Once I read you and I see you are trouble, I stay very far away.

 

Remain positive

It is so easy to develop a negative mindset with all the issues and challenges we encounter. However, we must remain positive in other to attract positivity into our lives. I choose to remain positive no matter what life throws at me. It can be hard on some days but I quickly pick myself right up. That way I am happier and my cup remains full. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

 

How do you ensure you cup stays full? Please share any self care tips that has worked for you.

 

How to silence the mind chatter when you meditate

If you are new to meditation,  you may be struggling with silencing the mind chatter. I struggled with that on and off for a while when I first started to meditate regularly. Now I don’t have that problem anymore. I meditate twice a day, 20 minutes in the morning and evening, and I can now do so effortlessly with no mind chatter. Now that I mediate on a daily basis, I feel a lot better all over and I can’t imagine not meditating now that I am reaping the full benefits of it.

 

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Meditating simply means being still. It is taking your mind off everything, sitting comfortably and focusing on your breath while breathing in and out deeply. It is different from the prayer quiet time which I also do multiple time a day. So how do you silence the mind chatter when you meditate? Here are some tips that may help you do just that.

 

Meditate daily

The more you meditate, the easier it will be for you to go right into it and be still. The more you practise mediation, the more you know how to silence the mind chatter that threatens to keep your mind and head still. If you only meditate once a while, you will definitely find it difficult to be still mindfully, but if you practise on a daily basis at set times, you will gradually get into the swing of it. If you are struggling to silence the mind chatter, don’t give up on meditating. Continue to meditate on a daily basis until it becomes second nature to you.

 

Pick the right time

It is important you mediate alone and when you know you won’t be disturbed. Picking the right time helps as it keeps your mind focused and free from distractions. It is a good idea to put gadgets on silence so you are not disturbed. I always make sure my iPhone and Apple Watch are on the silent mode so I am not disturbed.

 

Keep your mind still

Whenever you find your mind beginning to wander, acknowledge the thought, bring your mind right back and focus on your breathing. It is easy to wander off when you are trying to meditate, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Just ensure you continue to bring your mind back and you will find that the amount of time you do this decreases the more you meditate. This is a clear case of practise makes perfect!

 

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Keep your eyes closed and no music

I know some people say they mediate with their eyes open and music on. It can be possible to do this but I won’t recommend it. I struggle to keep my mind focus even when using guided meditations so I won’t recommend you listen to anything. Keeping your eyes closed is also important as it keeps you looking within and your mind is focused on your meditation and nothing else.

 

Start gradually

If you are struggling to keep your mind still or stay awake while meditating, then it may be a great idea to start small. Start mediating for 5/10 mins for some days and then gradually increase the amount of time you spend mediating.

 

Do you meditate? What are the benefits for you?

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