Adjusting To Motherhood: Useful Advice Every New Mama Can Benefit From

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The truth is the becoming a parent can be an exceedingly overwhelming experience, as well as an extremely wonderful one. Becoming a new parent is something that comes with a lot to think about, and often it can seem like you’re in information overload, with information being shared with you from all sides. 

It’s a lot to take in, and it’s easy to find yourself struggling to cope as a result. However, you don’t have to feel like this; there are plenty of steps that you can take to make life as a new parent a little easier for yourself. 

Those first few weeks and months of parenthood should be extremely special, but it can be difficult to enjoy them when you’re struggling to adjust to actually being a parent. The most important thing to remember when it comes to parenthood is to make sure that you are doing what makes you happy. 

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For everything that you need to know to make adjusting to motherhood a little easier, have a read of the tips and advice below. 

Learn to live in the now 

When you’re a new parent, you don’t have the time to be worrying about your to-do list. Things like laundry and going food shopping can wait – you have a teeny, tiny human to take care of. When you become a parent, it’s important to learn to live in the now and stop worrying about everything else that needs to be done. 

Parenting a newborn is hard, and it’s important to realise that you cannot control everything anymore; instead, you just have to learn to live in the moment and enjoy where you are right now. Instead of worrying about what you should be doing. Try and shed that pressure to ensure that everything is ticked off your tick list at the end of the day, and instead, learn how to live in the moment, enjoying every precious second with your new addition. 

Chill out about schedules 

Don’t forget to give yourself a break when it comes to caring for a new baby. A lot of new parents get so wrapped up in the concept of having to stick to certain schedules, such as feeding their little one at certain times or making sure that they’re sleeping at certain times, but this can be exceedingly hard to stick to. 

The fact is that babies don’t tend to stick to schedules, especially during those first few weeks and months of life. And as a parent, if you can chill out about schedules, you can make life far simpler and easier for yourself. Understand that your little one isn’t going to get into a routine right away, and instead of stressing about it, chill out about schedules and simply go with the flow. In time, your little one will get into a schedule, but it may take a while for a clear pattern to appear. 

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Make self-care a priority 

As a new parent, it’s far too easy to let your own self-care end up on the backburner when actually you should be making time for yourself and your own care. Being a new parent can be overwhelming, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t make time for yourself and your own self-care needs. Your physical and mental health pay a huge toll on pregnancy and childbirth, and it’s important to understand that is the case. You need to make sure that you’re taking your body’s needs seriously, and looking after yourself as best that you can. 

For instance, say you’ve noticed that you’re feeling rather stressed out, then you might want to take time time to relax and unwind. Whether that’s simply by having a nice hot bubble bath or practicing a short yoga class, it doesn’t matter. What’s important is that you find a way to relax that works for you. Or, for example, say that you are struggling with cracked and sore nipples as a result of breastfeeding, it’s important that you take the time to look for natural remedies for cracked nipples, and find a way to manage the issue that has occurred. What you don’t want to do is leave these kinds of problems on the backburner, allowing them to get worse and worse. 

Don’t panic about your weight 

If you have gained weight as a result of pregnancy, it’s easy to panic about it. However, the fact is that there is no rush to shed those extra pounds of weight – your body has done something amazing and it’s important to be aware of that. There’s no need to panic about how quickly you can shed the excess weight because there’s no rush to do so. Instead, focus on looking after your new addition and your own mental health. 

Once you’ve adjusted to life as a parent, you can then begin to think about how you can help to get your body back in shape. However, dieting is rarely the answer, it’s normally best to take a healthier and less restrictive approach, simply combining adequate physical activity with a healthy diet. 

Find your crew 

Parenthood can be extremely lonely, especially in the early weeks and months when your little one requires so much care. That’s why it is so important that you ensure that you have a good support system in place; part of that support system should be meeting other new mums and dads. If you’re going to make parenthood as enjoyable as possible, it’s important that you think about finding your crew, if you don’t already have a group of friends, that is. 

There are lots of simple ways that you can make meeting other parents a little easier to do, such as by attending parent and baby classes, for instance. You might also find that it’s easier to make new friends by joining some local Facebook parenting groups, allowing you to meet and connect with other local parents. This is really important for your own wellbeing, as everyone needs a support system in place. 

As a new parent, you really do need to have a good support system in place, which is why making friends is so very important when you have a new baby to care for. You want to be able to talk to people who understand what you’re going through because they’re going through the same thing as you are, and that’s where having a parenting crew can come in so handy. 

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Give your partner a chance to shine 

Don’t make the mistake of failing to allow your partner to do anything for your new addition; the fact is that your little ones are both your babies, and you don’t want your partner to feel pushed out. A lot of new dads find that they feel pushed out when the baby arrives, however, if you want to ensure that this isn’t the case for your partner, give them the chance to shine by letting them get as involved as possible in your little one’s care. 

Encourage your partner to take control of your little one’s care in the same way that you do. What you want to do is build an environment that when it comes to child care, you are both equal and are able to support and help each other as part of that. 

Enjoy it 

It’s far too easy to forget just how precious those first few weeks and months of parenthood are after you bring your little one home from the hospital. The fact is that while parenting a newborn is extremely hard work, it’s also a very special time and something that you don’t want to miss enjoying, because once that time is gone, you cannot get it back. That’s why it’s so important that you slow down and enjoy those first few weeks and months, really taking time to appreciate your little one. 

It’s also a good time to make some memories that will last a lifetime, such as by having a newborn photoshoot done and a family photoshoot. You could also opt to have casts made of your little one’s hands and feet – these make a wonderful keepsake, and a fantastic reminder of those early few weeks and months that you spent as a family. 

There you have it, everything that you need to know about adjusting to life as a new parent. It’s not always easy, but it is doable to adapt and have the most amazing first few weeks and months with your little one. 

Hopefully, the guide – and tips and advice – above will help to make adjusting to your new life as a parent, that little bit easier. Parenting a newborn is never going to be a walk in the park, especially when it’s your first baby as there’s just so much that you need to learn and take into account. However, there are steps that you can take – such as those outlined above – that can help to make coping that little bit easier for you and your partner. 

 

 

 

 

 

Reception to year 1 transition tips

The kiddies started year 1 in September and it has been a smooth transition into the new school year. They like their teachers and they are getting on  with all their classmates, which is great. I wasn’t really worried about them transitioning from reception to year 1. They are November babies, which makes them some of the oldest in the class, and I felt they were more than ready for year 1. So far so good, year 1 has been brilliant. It is a lot of work compared to reception, but the twins are quite academic, and they had some settling in sessions before the end of the summer term. So they already knew what to expect in year 1.

 

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Reception to year 1 transition tips

Here are some ways you and your child cam smoothly transition from reception to year 1 in primary school –

 

Talk about it

For me and my kids talking helps us with everything. The lines of communication are always open, and I think that helps a lot when dealing with changes likes moving from the foundation stage in reception to key stage 1 in year 1 primary school. It is normal to be a bit anxious when changes happen and us talking about it before the school year starts helped the twins go into  year 1 confident and ready.

 

Settling in sessions

The primary school the twins go to had settling in sessions for the whole school at the end of the summer term. Every child spent a few days in their new class and that helped them have a feel of what was coming in September. The kids got to meet their new teachers and got an idea of what was expected of them in their new class. Settling in sessions are great and I am thankful our school has this in place to ensure the children have a smooth transition into their new classes.

 

Get the children ready

The school has done their own part with the settling in sessions, we parents have to do ours. Getting the children ready for their new class can be done easily over the summer holidays. There’s plenty of time to have a look at what is to come in the new class year and get the children to start practising some school work. Even if this is done for a few minutes every week, it will help the child massively, especially if the move is from reception (which is pretty laid back informal education), to year 1 (which is a lot more formal and serious).

 

Play down your anxieties

It is normal for parents to be anxious about their children starting a new school year, especially year 1. Our children are forever our babies and many of them are only still 5 years old when year 1 starts. It is easy to get worried about the changes and how our children will cope with them, but we need to be careful our anxieties don’t rub off on our children. Using positive words and affirmations help. Also, being  involved with our children’s school work is super helpful. I like knowing what the twins have been up to at school and what they are learning in the class. Attending parent-teacher meetings also help me stay on top of their school work, which keep the worries away.

 

How is your child settling in the new school year? What do you think of these reception to year 1 transition tips?

Why I am not surviving the school summer holidays

The school summer holidays are almost here and I can’t believe how quickly time has gone. I was shocked to check the school diary to discover the school will be closing in about a week. For a funny reason, I thought they were closing a few days after, but that’s not the case. The twins have had a wonderful first year at primary school. They have grown so much and have learnt a whole lot. I can’t believe how quickly they are growing. Sometimes I wish I could press pause on life; it feels like they are growing too quick! Which is why I have decided not to survive the school summer holidays. I have decided to make the most of it, treasure the 6 weeks we have together and enjoy every bit of it.

 

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Why I am not surviving the school summer holidays

Back in the day, when it came to school summer holidays, it was a mixture of excitement and dread if I am being completely honest. I mean it is a whole 6 weeks holiday and my kids are very active. They behave better when there is a routine or stuff planned. We all don’t cope well when we go days with nothing to do but sit at home, and I am sure it is the same for many other families. We leave in a little village so there isn’t much to do here. The only soft play centre we had was sadly closed down some years ago, so there aren’t really activities for the kids to do nearby, except play in a playground, park and ride bikes/scooters outside.

However, I have made up my mind to enjoy the break and not survive it. Children are only young once, and the foundation is really important. I am from the school of thought that you should only have the number of kids you can deal with physically, emotionally and financially. So if you do that, you shouldn’t be tolerating the kids, you should be enjoying them. And if you are not, why did you have them?

 

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Having the right mindset helps

I work from home which is why I initially dreaded school holidays because I am usually unable to work from home with the kids. So I end up doing all my work at night and I wake up tired and grumpy. But this time, I am doing things different. I am going to have work planned out well in advance so I don’t play catch up and get stressed out.

Children can be incredibly draining and I know all about that with my active twins, but I believe our mindset affects us parents more than their tantrums. Having a positive outlook helps and just cherishing the moments while they are still tiny and want to spend every waking moment with you is the way to go. That is how I see it and I am going to cherish very day of our summer school holiday, even if we end up doing nothing.

Until the next post, take care.

 

 

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