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15 Things You Need To Know About Self Love

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Self love encompasses many things, not just looking in the mirror and thinking you look nice. Self love is all about becoming your own best friend, putting your needs first, and letting everybody know what a badass you are. Below, we’ll take a look at 15 things you need to know about self love. By the end, you’ll know exactly what to do to fall head over heels in love with yourself! 

 

 

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  1. You Are Enough

The first thing you need to know, is that you are enough. This makes a wonderful mantra! Repeat this to yourself whenever you’re feeling unsure of yourself and your worth. You are enough whatever your size or shape, whatever your situation. You don’t have to change or be anything that you’re not right now. This doesn’t mean that you can’t make changes if it’s what you really want, but understand that you don’t have to. 

 

  1. Comparing Yourself To Others Is A Waste Of Time 

Comparing yourself to anybody else is a complete waste of time. No two people are the same. You are completely one of a kind and unique, so why on earth would you want to compare yourself to anyone else? Especially if you’re doing the comparisons via social media. You just don’t know who’s telling lies on social media, who is photoshopping their bodies, and whose only showing you the great things that happen to them. 

 

  1. Focus On Your Strengths

Rather than focus on the things you believe aren’t enough or your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. What have you always liked about yourself? What do other people comment on a lot? What are you most proud of? What are you really good at? 

 

  1. You Can Do Anything You Set Your Mind To

Many people put off following their dreams and passions because of a lack of confidence. They just don’t think that they have what it takes to get to where they want to be. However, if you don’t try, you won’t get there! You have to change your mindset, and realize that with enough positivity, effort, and visualization, you can get just about anywhere. 

 

  1. You Are Not Your Thoughts 

Many people closely associate themselves with the thoughts they are having. If they find themselves having negative thoughts one day, they assume they are in a terrible mood and let everybody know about it. However, you are not your thoughts. If you find yourself thinking negatively, think of your thoughts as like a radio station and just change the channel. Flip negative thoughts around and try to see any and all positives you can. Alternatively, just think about something else. You get to choose what you focus on. Of course, you might want to see a doctor and have an assessment if negative thoughts are taking over your life, as you may have a chemical imbalance and need treatment. 

 

 

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  1. You Are Not What Others Think of You

Other people don’t like you? So what? You’re not them, and they don’t matter to you. You are not what others think of you, or what they say you are, you are what you say you are. Remember that. 

 

  1. Your Body Is The Least Interesting Thing About You

So many people don’t love themselves or think they are not worthy of love because their bodies don’t fit into society’s ‘ideal’. However, you have to remember that your body is the least interesting thing about you. Obsessing over it will do you no good. If you’ve been considering surgery such as breast enlargement to enhance your self image, make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. While having things like this done can give you a little confidence boost, they won’t help you at all if you don’t love yourself. They won’t fix all of your problems.  

 

  1. You Have To Love Yourself First

Before you can love anybody else, and before you can enjoy the love that you truly deserve, you need to love yourself. Pure and simple. If you’re single, stay single until you love yourself. You can’t expect your partner to do it all for you. Plus, when you love yourself, you’ll attract healthier relationships. 

 

  1. You Need To Protect Your Energy

Protecting your energy is all about setting boundaries and not letting what others say and do affect you. This means being careful about who you spend time around, as well as what you agree to doing. Say no to things you don’t want to do. This is an act of self love in itself. Avoid relationships that you know are no good for you – even if it’s a friendship. You don’t owe anybody anything, especially if they are making you feel terrible. 

 

  1. Learn How To Accept A Compliment 

We’ve all deflected a compliment at one time or another, but there’s no nobility in this. Chances are, this person is giving you a compliment because they genuinely believe it. Rather than telling them they are wrong, or that they are better, just say thank you. That’s all you have to say. Isn’t it strange how we can recall almost every nasty thing somebody has said to us, but we can’t remember the compliments? Try to commit them to memory!

 

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  1. Perfection Doesn’t Exist 

Striving for perfection isn’t a good idea. Perfection does not exist. Everybody and everything is flawed in its own unique way. Embrace whatever your ‘flaws are’, whether this is cellulite, stretch marks, or something else. Let go of perfect and you’ll feel free. 

 

  1. The Things You Do Every Day Really Add Up

Remember, when it comes to self love, it’s about the things you do each day. These things really add up. You can’t expect to work yourself to the point of burn out each week, take a bath and it all go away. You need to constantly practice looking after yourself. This means sleeping well each night, eating well balanced meals each day, exercising in a way you enjoy multiple times a week, having fun, avoiding toxic influences and habits, and even meditation. 

These little habits make the biggest difference, so make the effort to incorporate them into your daily routine now. For example, you could start your day with a pint of water, head to the gym for half an hour, eat a balanced breakfast, read a chapter of a self help book, meditate for 10 minutes, and then start on your chores. If you can do as many of these healthy habits in the morning as possible, you won’t be able to make excuses for not doing them later in the day. Life can get in the way, and we tend to slow down as we approach the afternoon, so get these things done. 

If you skip something one day, don’t fret. Just do it the next day. It isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being consistent. 

 

 

  1. Go After What You Really Want

Don’t stay in a job you hate, and do things every day for somebody else when you could be working towards your own goals and dreams. You have to go after what you really want, because nobody else is going to do it for you. Don’t know what it is you really want? Figure it out. Take your time. Then go for it. Here are a few ideas:

  • Take short classes and workshops to get an idea of your hobbies and interests
  • Do something while you enjoy it. If you stop enjoying it, don’t do it.
  • Think about the lifestyle you’d like to lead. 
  • Would you like to work for yourself? Start a business? 
  • Keep a journal and see if there are any clues! 

 

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  1. Head To New Places

When you visit new places, you’ll learn so much about yourself. Solo travel is even better, because it gives you the perfect opportunity to get comfortable with your own company and figure out your likes and dislikes. Many people hate the idea of travelling alone because they are scared of being by themselves. For this same reason, many people don’t like to be single for long. However, enjoying your own company is one of the greatest pleasures of life. Solo travel and see how you like it!

 

  1. Don’t Talk Down Your Achievements 

When talking to somebody about your achievements, don’t play them down. Telling people about things you’ve achieved doesn’t make you boastful or bigheaded. Let people know what you are capable of, and be proud of yourself! 

 

Self love can be tricky to navigate, especially if you grew up believing loving yourself was a bad thing. Loving yourself will be one of the most important things you learn to do, but it’s essential if you’re going to live a happy, healthy life, full of great relationships with other people. How you feel about yourself will greatly impact your interactions with others, and your life as a whole. Don’t kid yourself into thinking it won’t make a big difference. It will. 

 

What are you going to do today to practice self love? Leave a comment!

 

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The Dreaded Chickenpox Visited

The twins caught the dreaded chickenpox some weeks ago. It happened in the last week of school and it went on for about 2 weeks. We were absolutely shattered. The twins were indoors for over a week and we really didn’t know what to do with ourselves. Thankfully we had a garden to run around when they needed some exercise and fresh air. I have always been worried about the kiddies catching chickenpox from school, but now that it has happened, I am glad I no longer have to worry about it. My worst nightmare of them both being down with chickenpox has come and gone, and we survived!

 

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One thing I noticed o the web was the amount of wrong/misleading information on how to tackle chickenpox. I read all sorts on websites and forums, and the information these people were giving didn’t make any sense. We used a couple of products and medicines to reduce the discomfort of the sickness. I will be reviewing a few of them on here in the next few weeks, but first let me talk about some things you should and shouldn’t do.

 

Treating Chickenpox

There are all sorts of information on the web when it comes to treating chickenpox. I found many of them misleading. Here are some things you need to know –

 

Fever Comes

Chickenpox usually comes along with fever. You can get an accurate reading with a thermometer. The kids had fever on and off and we controlled it with Calpol. That helped massively as they were comfortable throughout the ordeal. We also used Puriton to reduce the itch, which also helped. Ensure you read the leaflet in both medicines and follow the recommended dosage.

 

The Chickenpox Can Appear Almost Everywhere

I was surprised to find that chickenpox can appear everywhere even in the mouth. They appear like mouth ulcers in mouth and can be quite painful. Treating the chickenpox in the mouth was a bit hard but thankfully they got better within about 3 days.

 

Minimal Baths/Showers

Of all the wrong information I saw online, this was the worst of the bunch. When someone has chickenpox, the last thing you want is a damp skin. The skin needs to be as dry as possible to heal quickly. So baths/showers should be minimal. For the first day, there was no bath/shower. I wanted their skin as dry as possible and I didn’t want to disturb the chickenpox too much. From the second day, they had very short showers with no sponge once a day. We use a soap free body wash – Oilatum, and that worked great. I will be reviewing it as well.

On many forums, I read people were having baths and multiple showers a day. They thought this will help get rid of the chickenpox faster, but then they noticed the condition was not getting better. When it comes to treating chickenpox in the early days, the dryer the skin the better. When the chickenpox has crushed over and fallen off, then you can go back to your regular skin routine of showers/baths with sponge and regular moisturisers. However, if your child suffers with dry skin issues already, then you may need to go easy on this tip.

 

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Get Chickenpox Creams

There are all sorts of chickenpox creams and lotions in the market today with great promises. We used a couple of them and I will be reviewing them soon so you know what to expect from each product. It is important to get a cream to use on the spots so your child is as comfortable as possible and to help the spots dry up quicker. My kids didn’t like me applying the creams but I did it anywhere. I know many kids don’t enjoy the cream application but you have to do it. Their skin will thank you for it.

 

No Scratching

With chickenpox, it is important not to scratch. This can be hard to explain to younger kids but the twins understood that bit quickly. I taught them to tap gently instead when needed. I also wore socks on their hands for bedtime so they don’t scratch themselves in their sleep.

 

Change Clothes, Bedding and Towels Daily

Clothes, bedding and towels are to be changed daily. It means endless washing for the next week or so, but it helps keep the skin clean and stops the chicken pox from spreading to other areas on the skin.

 

It Takes Time Sometimes

It takes time for all the spots to appear. They all don’t appear at the same time, so they crust over at different times. This was the case with us so it took just over 2 weeks for all the spots to crust over.

The storm is over and we are happy. I will be writing up posts with product recommendations soon so look out for them. Have you experienced the dreaded chickenpox? How did you deal with it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Social Media Tips – Instagram is for art and creativity

The first mistake I made as a blogger was treating every social media platform the same way. It took me years to understand how each one works, and how I had to use them differently. I wrote a few weeks ago about how Twitter is mainly for chit-chat and networking. It took me ages to figure that bit out and it took me even longer to fully understand the ever changing world of Instagram. Instagram is not my favourite social media platform but it has grown on me. It is one of the trickiest social media platforms at the moment and one of the hardest to grow, which is why many influencers find it super frustrating.

 

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I made so many mistakes in the early days of being on Instagram and I am still learning how best to use the platform. It is not quite as straightforward as Twitter. The ever changing algorithms make it more difficult to find the right technique to grow your account, which is why many  users end up using bots to increase their engagement and following. However, this is not recommended.

Instagram is a social media platform to showcase art and creativity. It is all about pretty photos, videos and catchy captions! Here are 5 tips you may find useful in making the most of your Instagram –

 

Treat it as a standalone

Instagram is a standalone kind of platform. It doesn’t allow you include links in your photos/videos like other platforms, so you don’t get much blog referrals from it. The best way to handle Instagram is to use it differently from how you use other social media platforms, and not to promote every single blog post on it. The users of Instagram don’t want to be redirected to another platform. They want to stand on it, and Instagram has created the app to do just that. Trying to send your followers anywhere else won’t work.

My approach to instagram is very different now from how it was years ago. I don’t promote every blog post on it, only a few. I hardly even talk about my blog on there these days. I just share photos with captions that work. My blog link is in my bio so it is clear I have a blog, but I don’t try to drive every engagement I get over to the blog anymore.

 

Use the Instagram Stories

Another way of making the most of your Instagram account is by putting up stories. This is  something I only started doing regularly and I can see the results already. My engagement rate has increased massively so I know Instagram likes when you use the stories feature. I now put on stories everyday and my views keep increasing tremendously. So start putting up daily stories if you want your account to grow.

 

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Spend money on Instagram Ads

Now I know many people would not want to put spend money promoting their posts on Instagram, but if you want some form of growth, another way is to spend money on Instagram ads. I do this quite regularly and it has helped. The trick to this is to make sure the post you are promoting is worth the amount you are spending. I also spend the minimum amount I can most of the time and I am happy with the results I get.

 

Have an interesting bio

Since Instagram is all about art and creativity, it makes sense to be as creative as you can with your bio. Anyone who visit your page should know what you are all about just by reading your bio. You have a limited word count to use in your bio, so make every word count.

 

Use hashtags

Using the right hashtags can introduce your page to a new audience every time you post. I like to keep my hashtags to 30 or under and I use relevant hashtags with less than a million posts most of the time. It works but I won’t say it works massively. I do get an average of an extra 50 – 80 likes when I use the right hashtags.

 

 

What do you think of these Instagram social media tips? Do you have any tried and tested tip to share?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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