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Relationship Therapy Books to Read Before Saying I Do

I am a book lover. I have loved reading books for as long as I could read and I have passed that love over to my kids. They love reading and it makes me very happy. I read all sorts of books, relationship books, self-help books, business books, finance books and more. The goal for 2019 is to read a book a week and so far so good I am on track with my week 3 book already.I learn a lot from reading books, and I love the fact that there is a book for every niche. And Amazon Kindle has made my love for reading a lot stronger thanks to how easy it is to think of a book and start reading in within a minute.

 

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Relationship Therapy Books to Read Before Saying I Do

In the last few months, I have been read a lot of relationship books on my Kindle and I recommend some more than others. These relationship books I recommend are great for intending couples to read before they say their vows. Marriage should be a life long commitment, which is why intending couples need to ensure they go for premarital counseling and ask the right questions before the get married.

There is no reason not to have a form of premarital counseling. With the advancement of technology, you can even have your sessions online if you need to. Myself and my husband had premarital counseling, and I would advise any couple to have some counseling sessions with a qualified therapist before exchanging vows. I would also advise couples to read as many relationship books as possible before their big day.

Here are my 3 top relationship books to read before you get married –

 

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman

I have read this book a few times and I really like it. It explains  the 5 love languages in detail, and I thinks every couple should it. It is a great relationship book to read before you say I do. Gary Chapman is a terrific author. He explains the different 5 expressions of love and how to identify and communicate effectively in a spouse’s “love language.”. This is a great premarital book to read.

 

101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged by H Norman Wright

Many couples fail to get to really know their potential spouses while they are courting. They spend their time on unimportant things and forget to pay attention to things that really matters. This book helps couples ask in-depth and personal questions in order to see if they would make it to the altar. It is definitely worth reading.

 

Questions for Couples: What to Ask Before You Say “I Do”: A Primer for Planning Your Future Together and A Guide to What to Expect From Premarital Counseling (The Wedding Series)

This is another great book to read. It is a guide that offers over 450 realistic and practical questions in 18 categories for intending marriage couples. This book covers topics from Finances and Intimacy to Religion and Children. It also guides couples on what to expect from premarital counselling. It is a great book.

 

Have you read any of these relationship therapy books? What are your thoughts on premarital counselling?

 

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The Importance of Having a Car Warranty

I recently bought a new car – Honda Civic from a UK Car Retailer and the experience I had was quite eventful. We found this great looking car online and reserved it to take a further look in real life. I know all about how amazing items look online only to find they look nothing like that when you see them in real life. So a couple of days later, we went over to Manchester to check out the car. It looked as good as it looked online. We took it out for test drive and it drove quite well. There were a few concerns which we pointed out to the Sales Rep, and he was quick to sort them all out.

 

So we bought the car

We shook hands on the deal and picked up the car a couple of days later, only to realise the Air Conditioner was not working. It was a hot summer day, so it was a very uncomfortable ride home. We immediately called the car retailer to advise them of the issue and then the drama started. The Sales Rep or rather the Store Manager didn’t want us to bring the car back in. He instead suggested we take it to another store closer to us, which we reluctantly agreed to. I wasn’t happy about this arrangement because it meant I won’t have be able to drive the car for some weeks as there was no availability in our local store anytime soon.

 

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The drama started on the first day

The day finally came for us to take the car to our local car retailer store. We dropped it off only to get a call the next day informing us that the Manchester store where we bought the Honda Civic have refused to fund the Air Conditioner. I was so upset. This was after we waited weeks with no Air Conditioner, the same Manchester store advised us on what to do and they have now changed their minds for reasons best known to them. Thankfully I had a warranty for 90 days and the Air Conditioner is covered on the warranty, so it only a call and email to their head office complaint team to get the car repaired and ready for collection within days.

 

The important of having a car warranty

The moral of the story is to always make sure to have a warranty at least for some weeks when you buy a car. You never know when the car warranty would come in handy. If I didn’t have mine, I would have had to cough out a few hundreds to get the repairs done, even though it was damaged prior to ours buying it. Look out for car retailers that offer warranties before you commit to a car. M has an Audi, and it has had a few mechanical and electrical faults since he got it. But thankfully, he bought with an Audi Warranty, so he’s covered.

 

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Test drive it properly

Also, when you do for a test drive, ensure you really test the car. We focused on other parts of the car, but didn’t pay attention to the air conditioner. It was a chilly day so we didn’t notice it was not cooling. My advice is to check all the features and ensure they are working as they should.

 

Does your car have a warranty?

 

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Preparing Yourself for a Career Change

As life expectancy increases, the world changes. Years ago, it was normal to get married in your late teens, stay together forever and still only celebrate your 40th anniversary. Most of us remember our grandparents, but few of us remember great-grandparents, which are now becoming a more common part of our family structure. Even better, it’s not just our life expectancy that has increased, the quality of life that we are to expect has also improved.

When we were young, those grandparents that we remember already seemed old, even though they were perhaps only in their late 50’s. They were often ill. They spent time in hospital and old age seemed a terrible thing. Nowadays it’s not uncommon to find people in their 70’s and even 80’s, living fun, active lives. Free from illness and the confines of age.

It’s not just family sets ups that are changing and growing. Our careers are also changing. The average retirement age is approaching 70, and many people continue to work for even longer, either to earn the money that they need to maintain their quality of life or because they can’t stand the idea of retirement. After a busy and fulfilling career, the idea of suddenly having no focus or anything to get out of bed for can be daunting. Especially if you are fit and healthy and able to work.

Years ago, we chose a career in our late teens. Trained and studied for a long time. Worked hard to gain promotions. Then, we either retired or passed away before the time came. By the time we settled into a career we might have only had 30 years working. Nowadays it’s not uncommon for our working lives to last for 50 or even 60 years.

 

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During that time, we change. We change a lot, and we do it more than once. Few of us have the same hobbies, interests, and passions at 40 as we did when we were 17. So, why should we be expected to do the same job? Now that we are living, and working, for so much longer, it’s more important than ever that we find jobs that we love.

Imagine being stuck in a job that makes you unhappy for twenty years or more? Being unhappy at work can cause further issues. You can struggle to sleep because you are worried about work. Your relationships can be affected if you are coming home stressed out and annoyed every day. You can find yourself drinking more alcohol, spending more money or indulging in other bad habits to make things seem more bearable.

Yet unfortunately, many of us live this way. If we spend years training, and a fortune on higher education, the idea of giving it all up to try something else can make us feel guilty. We can have doubts, struggle on through the bad days, and be left with a retirement filled with regrets. But, why? Why not try a career change instead? Here are some things that you should do first.

 

Don’t Rush in

The last thing that you want to do is rush into a career change because you’ve had a bad week. Take your time to think about it carefully and consider your options before you do anything rash like handing in your notice. Are you unhappy at work? Could you make any changes that would help? Speak to your manager and colleagues before rushing in. If you do decide that it’s time to move on, again, don’t rush your next move or you could end up merely moving from job to job without ever finding a career that you love.

 

Think About What Parts of Your Job You Enjoy

So, you are unhappy at work. That doesn’t mean that you hate everything about it. Write a list of the things that you enjoy about your current and previous jobs. Do you enjoy working with customers or with your hands? Do you like working flexible hours? How do you like working as a part of a large team? Do you enjoy your commute? These positives might be things that you want to look for in your next position.

 

And Those That You Hate

There’s also bound to be things about your current and past jobs that you’ve hated, dreaded or just not enjoyed. Write these down too, no matter how silly, or job-specific they seem to be. These are the things that you’ll want to avoid going forward.

 

Write Down Your Transferable Skills

When it comes to finding a position in a different field, a lack of experience can obviously count against you. But, in many cases, your skills are as important as direct experience. We’ve all got transferable skills, whether you know it or not. Say you’ve spent the last few years working in a busy store, your key skills could include organization, time management, coping well under pressure, and dealing with hostile situations. These key skills are crucial in many fields.

 

Find Your Passion

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You need to make sure that your career change is worth it. So, take your time to think about what you love, what you enjoy doing and what you feel passionate about. This could be anything, and you don’t necessarily need to be good at it. If you love sports but have little natural talent for your favorites, how about becoming a sports writer or blogger, a sports photographer or you could become a fitness tutor. Think about what you love, and then think about any related careers, even if you need to think outside of the box a little to find the right fit.

 

Save Up

Perhaps the main reason that people today put off a career change, even when they are unhappy is financial. Most of us live paycheck to paycheck and just can’t afford to be without a job. When you are working full time and dealing with other family commitments, and you can’t afford to take time off, how are you meant to apply for jobs? When will you have the time to go to interviews or take on training? Then, of course, there’s the fact that even if you did manage to find a new job, you might be in for a big drop in pay. If you’ve worked your way up your current career ladder, you may now be on a decent wage. Changing career might mean starting at the bottom again, and your paycheck will reflect this. How are you going to support your family?

The best thing that you can do is start saving as soon as you decide that you want to make a change. Save enough that you can take a few weeks or even months off between jobs. But, also enough to cover bills for a while if things don’t go well.

You might also want to make some cutbacks. Remember, happiness is more than stuff. Cancel some contracts, make other cutbacks and create a household budget. Look at how much you need to be earning to get by, not how much you need to maintain your current quality of life. Remember what’s important.

 

Study

Even if you’ve saved up, you might not have enough money or time to head back to school. But you have got other options. You could study online, part-time, at a local college in the evenings. You can read up and teach yourself, and even apply for related volunteer jobs to gain further knowledge and experience.

 

Then, It’s Time to Jump

 

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You don’t want to rush, but you can’t keep putting it off either. When you’ve found something that you really want, and saved enough money, don’t make excuses, jump in.

 

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