As Shakespeare famously said, the course of true love never did run smoothly and nothing sums up that sentiment more than the tricky task of nailing a successful first date. First Dates can be hard. While it may be amusing to watch a couple’s debut meeting on Channel 4’s First Dates, or read about an awkward rendezvous in the Guardian’s Blind Date feature, actually going on one yourself, sipping cocktails and engaging in small talk, can be nerve wrecking and leave you riddled with anxiety.
For men, the pressure is on; it’s not enough to just to iron your best Hugo Boss Black Label shirt and head off down to the local Wetherspoons, expectations are very high.
Here are some Do’s and Don’ts to help you with your first meeting and looking the part after swiping right on Tinder:
Do: Clean your shoes
Shoes are one of the first things that people notice when meeting someone initially so make sure yours are polished and prepped and make a good initial impression. Have a look at the shoes the Mister is rocking here for some shoe inspiration.
Don’t: Neglect oral hygiene
Goes without saying but if the night ends with a kiss, you don’t want to be remembered as the man she refers to her friends as ‘the bloke with the bad breath’. Brush, floss, mouthwash and carry some mints with you.
Do: Wear a watch
Not only does a nice timepiece look fantastic and really add something to an outfit, it will also ensure you keep off your phone if you’re curious to know what time it is. Nothing looks worse on a first date than someone constantly glancing down at their mobile; even if it is to genuinely to keep an eye on the time as you’re planning to get the last bus home. A nice watch looks stylish and ensures you won’t appear rude – a win-win situation. But ensure you don’t keep looking at your watch so it doesn’t come across as you being in a hurry to get away.
Don’t: Try something new
A couple of hours before your first meeting is NOT the time to experiment with a new way of doing your hair. Just don’t risk it. Stick to the tried and tested.
Do: Dress for the occasion
A simple but important one – make sure you’re dressed appropriately for whatever venue your date is taking place. Don’t turn up at a fancy restaurant or bar and be surprised if you get the knock back for wearing scruffy trainers.
Don’t: Be someone you’re not
After a bit of light research (aka excessive Facebook stalking) you’ll discover a bit more about your partner, maybe even spied a couple of their exes, and have a pretty good idea of what their type is and you’re worried it’s not you. Perhaps they seem to enjoy muscular men and the last time you worked out was back during a PE lesson at school. Maybe they look like they should be dating the lead singer of some obscure indie band you’re not cool enough to have heard of and your look is more classic normal bloke?
Don’t panic and, whatever you do, don’t have a complete style overhaul. There’s no need to be squeezing into skinny jeans and get an abundance quirky vintage tattoos if your style is more a classic jeans and t-shirt. Be yourself. They’ve agreed to go on a date with you so make sure the real you shows up.
Don’t: Forget to iron
You can have the nicest designer gear in the world but if you neglect to run an iron over it then it’s pointless. Creases and crumples look sloppy and give a lazy impression which isn’t great when trying to convince someone you’re a catch. So iron that shirt.
Don’t: Have any expectations about whether you’ll be getting your kit off or not
So now you look the absolute part for your date and are feeling good, naturally your mind starts to wander to think about whether your outfit will look better on the bedroom floor after a few hours?
Stop, don’t approach the date with any preconceptions or expectations either way.
However, wherever your clothes end up after the date, at least either way you’ll know you looked great if you followed the tips above.
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