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Counselling sessions for first time mothers

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Having a baby for the first time is an exciting experience. I remember how exciting it was for me over 5 years ago while I was pregnant with the Kiddies. Like most first time mothers to be, it is an experience I can never forget. Having said, the whole pregnancy process is brand new so there is always a bit of anxiety for most new mothers. And for some other mothers to be, the whole period of pregnancy, the thought of child-birth and life after can be pretty scary.

Pregnancy can be so scary for pregnant women, and the fear can even cause problems in your relationship with your spouse/partner, because it may feel hard to describe your feelings. These issues can even cause couples to drift apart, which usually leads to other family issues. Which is why I believe every first time mother should be offered at least one counselling session while pregnant.

 

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First time mothers to be should have counselling sessions

I believe every first time mother to be should be offered some counselling sessions. These counselling sessions should be carried out by a qualified therapist. The sessions can be incorporated with the ante natal classes. I think pregnant women will really benefit from some form of counselling to prepare them for motherhood and the life and body changes that come with it. You can read more about these counselling sessions here.

There are so many side effects of pregnancy and child-birth no one really talks about. The pregnancy books try to explain them but nothing really prepares you. I read so many pregnancy books, but I remember how shocked I was when I looked at my stomach for the first time after delivery. It didn’t look like mine. It was flappy and looked deflated. So having someone to answer your questions and shed light on issues you may be facing would be a life saver for many mothers to be.

 

Hormones can trigger a mental health issue

Many pregnant women have no idea how the strain of pregnancy will affect their body, mental and physical health. The pregnancy hormones can make women feel more anxious and ‘low’. Some pregnant women develop a mental health problem during pregnancy or within a year of giving birth, which is referred to as the ‘perinatal period’. Here are some examples of perinatal mental health illness –

  • Perinatal obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
  • Antenatal depression
  • Postnatal depression
  • Anxiety
  • Postpartum psychosis
  • Tokophobia (extreme fear of childbirth)
  • Postpartum post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

 

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I wish I had the opportunity to speak with to a licensed counsellor about my mental health while pregnant for the first time. Being able to speak with a therapist would have answered many of questions and put my mind at rest. And I know many women feel the exact same way. Having that safe place to pour out your mind and speak about what ever issues or feelings you might be having would make the whole pregnancy process a lot easier for many.

 

What are your thoughts on this? Do you think first time mothers to be should have counselling sessions? Please share in the comment section below. Thanks for stopping by.

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Pregnancy Insomnia – How I dealt with it

I remember my pregnancy days sometimes and I smile. In the early days, I slept like a baby but my sleep was filled with all sorts of dreams. I had a different dream every night and there dreams were so vivid, I found them entertaining. I enjoyed my bedtime in the first trimester. Sleep and bedtime Fast forward to the second trimester, and sleep became a luxury. I could hardly sleep at night.

Napping during the day was fine on some days, but sleep won’t come at night. I would be wide awake unable to sleep from night to morning, and I would have to get up in the morning for work. It was horrible, I was so exhausted.

 

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What is Pregnancy Insomnia?

Pregnancy Insomnia is when you have difficulty sleeping when you are expecting. I never had issues with sleep until I became pregnant and once I delivered all I wanted to do was sleep, but my tiny newborns won’t let me. Insomnia took a toll on my physical and mental health, and left me drained. I didn’t struggle with any other pregnancy issues. I went the full term with the twins, and worked until I was about 37 weeks pregnant. My Job in Manchester had me commuting over 2 hours each way to get to work.

 

Causes of Pregnancy Insomnia

There are many causes of pregnancy insomnia. Here are a few common causes –

  • Heartburn
  • Discomfort
  • Frequent urinating
  • Vivid dreams
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Backpain
  • Shortness of breath
  • Leg Cramps
  • Hormones

 

I think my pregnancy insomnia was caused by hormones and heartburn. I had bad heartburn and morning sickness throughout my second and third trimester. Also, I also think my pregnancy hormones played a major role in my insomnia. I was pregnant for the first time, with 2 babies inside me. So I can imagine the shock my body was in.

 

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So how did I deal with my pregnancy insomnia?

How did I deal with my pregnancy insomnia? I didn’t. Throughout my second and especially my third trimester, I hardly got any sleep. It was the same every night. I would toss and turn until morning, and go into work feeling shattered. I could take any sleeping medication to help me sleep, so there was really nothing I could do. During the day, I did manage to nap at times, and those naps helped me stay sane. Having a bedtime routine also helped me relax and get into the mood.

I also remember saying comfortable in bed with a pregnancy pillow and as many pillows as I could lay my hands on. I had a pillow for my neck, head, back, legs, and waist. These pillows helped me stay comfy.

 

Difficulty sleeping while pregnant is a common thing. Many pregnant women experience some form of disruption in their sleep. Changes in my lifestyle/bedtime routine didn’t really help. It is worth speaking with your doctor if you have having sleep problems. Your doctor would be able to check your situation and advise accordingly.

 

Did you suffer from pregnancy insomnia? How did you deal with it?

 

 

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