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You can’t pour from an empty cup

The older I become, the more I start to take good care of myself. The saying – you can’t pour from an empty cup is so true. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t care for others, which is why I now pay attention to my both my physical and my mental health. As a twin mum, it is so easy to put myself last every time. I still put myself last every now and again if I am being completely honest, but I am now conscious about the fact that I need to care for me in order to care for everyone else.

 

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The easiest way to avoid burning out is to make sure your cup is filled. Pay attention to your well being and mental health. Don’t neglect yourself in the process of taking care of everyone else. Ensuring your cup stays filled, depending  on your lifestyle, can be tricky in this day and age with so many responsibilities and distractions. But this is not something you should push aside. Here are some quick tips you can implement today to help you pay more attention to you –

 

Stay active

It is 2019 and there are so many ways to stay active, so no excuses. You could go to a gym or bring the gym to your house thanks to YouTube. There are so many fitness videos on the platform to get you moving. All you need is time, a good internet connection and dedication.

Going for walks is another way to stay active. The school run helps me get out and about on my feet. Walks are a good way of staying active. They are also great for my mental health as they help me clear my head.

 

Spoil yourself

You should ensure you spoil yourself every now and again. Do something you really enjoy at least once a day/week. It doesn’t have to be anything pricey or complicated, it could be as simple as reading a book you enjoy or watching a great TV show in the evening when the rest of the house is asleep. It could also be booking a massage session for yourself or getting your house cleaned while you just relax and unwind. Whatever it is you do, the most important thing is to make sure the activity leaves you relaxed and refreshed.

 

Get rest

The benefits of quality sleep are too many to mention in this blog post, but many of us already know all about the healing powers of sleep. Our body repairs itself while we sleep, so ensuring we get a good night’s rest is another way to keeping our cup filled. I am very grumpy when I don’t sleep well, so I make sure I get a decent amount of sleep every night to feel like myself. I aim for 7/8 hours of uninterrupted sleep every night.

 

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Say NO more often

I have never been a Yes person, but the older I have become, the more I now say NO. It is ok to say Yes if you want to and if you really mean it, but don’t feel obliged to do things just because someone is asking. If it is not convenient or it is too much of an ask, say NO. Say Yes to yourself more, yes to getting adequate rest, spoiling yourself, and just being there for yourself more. It is great for your well being and state of mind.

 

Follow your passions

Focus on yourself and follow your passions. You are of no use to anyone if you are unhappy or depressed. Your dreams and heart desires matter, so pay attention to them.

 

Healthy boundaries

There is power in having healthy boundaries because they create healthy relationship, that is best for everyone. While lack of boundaries create toxic  settings. Having healthy boundaries are great for your health and they help you stay mindful of you. I can go on and on about the importance of making sure you have your boundaries up when dealing with people. Healthy boundaries help you have great relationships with yourself and others.

 

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Stay away from toxic relationships

Speaking of healthy boundaries, toxic people don’t like boundaries. They like to suck the life out of people, which is why it’s best to stay away from them. Once I read you and I see you are trouble, I stay very far away.

 

Remain positive

It is so easy to develop a negative mindset with all the issues and challenges we encounter. However, we must remain positive in other to attract positivity into our lives. I choose to remain positive no matter what life throws at me. It can be hard on some days but I quickly pick myself right up. That way I am happier and my cup remains full. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

 

How do you ensure you cup stays full? Please share any self care tips that has worked for you.

 

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Mental Health – Letting go is good for the soul

I am a recovering worrier! Back in the day, I would worry over everything. These days, I am trying my best to stop worrying, to let go and let God. Letting go is good for the soul. It is a lot easier to worry about every tiny little detail but it does nothing for your mental health. Which is why I now make a conscious effort not to worry about anything. Sometimes, it is easier to let go and not worry, and other times it can be a lot harder. But the more I make an effort to not worry about all the issues on this planet, the easier it becomes.

 

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Letting go is good for the soul

Since I started focusing more on my spiritual life and mindfulness. I have realised that a lot of the things we are so worried about will not happen. However, the danger of worrying about issues bring our focus and attention to these issues, which can lead to us manifesting exactly what we are afraid of. Letting go does not mean we should be reckless or ignore what we are supposed to do. It just means we focus our attention on what we have power over and take our attention away from outcomes and the rest.

 

The benefits of letting go

Here are some of the amazing benefits of letting go –

 

You will sleep better

Letting go will help you sleep better at night. Being a worrier means you will likely be up for most of the night worrying about all sorts. Letting go helps you sleep peacefully and soundly, which is great for your overall health.

 

Goodbye to anxiety and depression

This is one of the most important benefits of letting go is that you can wave goodbye to anxiety, depression and other mental health issues. Dwellling on your problems will only make you feel anxious and depressed. However, if you focus on positivity and things within your power, you will find you no longer feel as anxious or depressed. Focusing on what you have power over and positive outcomes means you feel good which is amazing for your wellbeing.

 

 

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It leads to positive outcomes

Apart from the fact that letting go helps you sleep better and can get rid of some mental health problems, it can also lead to positive outcomes. The law of attraction means you manifest what you focus on. So if you are a worrier and you focus on all your cares and worries, it is likely you bring them into your reality just by focusing on them. Letting it all go and focusing on positive results and positivity in general means you attract just those into your reality.

 

I know how easy it is to worry. Just look at the Brexit mess for example. That is enough to keep many people up at night for various reasons. But being up all night won’t make the deal come quicker for example but it will mess up your body clock which will only make up more miserable. That’s the way I see it.

 

Letting go is good for the soul. How do you let go? Any ideas you want to share with the other readers?

Pregnancy Insomnia – How I dealt with it

I remember my pregnancy days sometimes and I smile. In the early days, I slept like a baby but my sleep was filled with all sorts of dreams. I had a different dream every night and there dreams were so vivid, I found them entertaining. I enjoyed my bedtime in the first trimester. Sleep and bedtime Fast forward to the second trimester, and sleep became a luxury. I could hardly sleep at night.

Napping during the day was fine on some days, but sleep won’t come at night. I would be wide awake unable to sleep from night to morning, and I would have to get up in the morning for work. It was horrible, I was so exhausted.

 

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What is Pregnancy Insomnia?

Pregnancy Insomnia is when you have difficulty sleeping when you are expecting. I never had issues with sleep until I became pregnant and once I delivered all I wanted to do was sleep, but my tiny newborns won’t let me. Insomnia took a toll on my physical and mental health, and left me drained. I didn’t struggle with any other pregnancy issues. I went the full term with the twins, and worked until I was about 37 weeks pregnant. My Job in Manchester had me commuting over 2 hours each way to get to work.

 

Causes of Pregnancy Insomnia

There are many causes of pregnancy insomnia. Here are a few common causes –

  • Heartburn
  • Discomfort
  • Frequent urinating
  • Vivid dreams
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Backpain
  • Shortness of breath
  • Leg Cramps
  • Hormones

 

I think my pregnancy insomnia was caused by hormones and heartburn. I had bad heartburn and morning sickness throughout my second and third trimester. Also, I also think my pregnancy hormones played a major role in my insomnia. I was pregnant for the first time, with 2 babies inside me. So I can imagine the shock my body was in.

 

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So how did I deal with my pregnancy insomnia?

How did I deal with my pregnancy insomnia? I didn’t. Throughout my second and especially my third trimester, I hardly got any sleep. It was the same every night. I would toss and turn until morning, and go into work feeling shattered. I could take any sleeping medication to help me sleep, so there was really nothing I could do. During the day, I did manage to nap at times, and those naps helped me stay sane. Having a bedtime routine also helped me relax and get into the mood.

I also remember saying comfortable in bed with a pregnancy pillow and as many pillows as I could lay my hands on. I had a pillow for my neck, head, back, legs, and waist. These pillows helped me stay comfy.

 

Difficulty sleeping while pregnant is a common thing. Many pregnant women experience some form of disruption in their sleep. Changes in my lifestyle/bedtime routine didn’t really help. It is worth speaking with your doctor if you have having sleep problems. Your doctor would be able to check your situation and advise accordingly.

 

Did you suffer from pregnancy insomnia? How did you deal with it?

 

 

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