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Dealing with anxiety as a self employed person

February 27, 2019 By in Freelancing/Self-employed Tags: , , , , , , , , , 13 Comments

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Self employment has always been the dream, and I am grateful I am able to live this life especially with my kids being so young. But being self-employed comes with an unstable income. The uncertainty can be very worrying and the worry could lead to serious anxiety if you let it. I have been a mum for over 5 years now, while running my online business by the side and I have picked up many ways of dealing with anxiety as a self-employed person. Here are a few of the ways I combat anxiety.

 

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Save the money

Running your own business means sometimes it rains with money and sometimes it doesn’t. I have always been more of a saver than a spender, so that helped me in this self-employed journey. I always put money away just incase an unexpected bill comes up, or business becomes really slow the next month. Saving the left over money means I don’t worry about paying my bills the next month.

Ageing my money helps me deal with anxiety, and it is one tip I always recommend to business owners. Save that money. It may come in handy in a few months.

 

Have faith

I don’t really talk about my faith on here because it is not a faith blog, but I believe in God. That faith helps me when anxiety comes knocking. I am a very spiritual person, and my active spiritual life helps me deal with issues that seem impossible.

It may not be your cup of tea but it works great for me. I can’t imagine living a life without my faith in God.

 

Self care

When you are working for yourself, it may be very hard to take out time for self-care. I have started paying more attention to my mental health and the extra attention helps me stay on top of my self-care, which helps get rid of any anxiety. It could be a nice long walk on a beautiful sunny day, or going for a relaxing massage at the spa, or watching a movie at the cinema.

Self care is very important especially when you are a 1 man team. If you are having issues with your mental health and want to read up more on this, check out Better Help for more information on who is best to speak with. Also, you can look into trying different self care products like a foot spa, massage chair to unwind, and the likes, in order to figure out the products that fit you.

 

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Take your work seriously

I take my work very seriously and I think that helps me get a steady flow of income. I work every free time I get (more than 40 hours a week) and I believe I am the true definition of a hustler. Nowadays I try to take the as much time as I can afford to take off but I am always working. That helps me stay on top of my bills, keeps my mind busy and get rid of any anxiety.

 

Music helps

Music is good way for me to escape all my problems. It is like food to my soul and I feed on it everyday. I love listening to good music. My Spotify playlists come in very handy. You can easily catch me typing up a post and listening to some cool songs.

 

 

How do you deal with anxiety as a self employed person? Do you have any tips to share?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dealing with the winter blues

February 5, 2019 By in Lifestyle Tags: , , , , , , , , , 31 Comments

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It has been very cold pretty much all over the UK. We were lucky enough to get some snow last week. It was white and beautiful last week Wednesday and the kids loved it. The enjoyed walking to school in the snow and they even had the opportunity to build a snowman! There is still snow in the forecast, so we are expecting some more in the next few days. I am sort of looking forward to it for the kids sake, but I am not looking forward to the chill that comes with it.

 

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The cold and darkness makes me super low on some days. I won’t call my state of mind – SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) or winter depression, but it is quite similar. The cold and the darkness that comes with it (especially the darkness) gets me really down sometimes. I call the feeling the winter blues.

As a working from home mummy of 2 very busy toddlers, I am always on the move. Working from home with the kiddies in school means I get to be on my own and with my thoughts and work for a good part of the day. So I have to protect my state of mind to ensure I can give everyday my best shot.

Here are some ways I cope and keep the winter blues away –

 

Let them be light

I pull my blinds and curtains every morning and get in as much natural light as I can. This act usually gives my mental health an instant boast. It helps that we have a room with a window in the ceiling like aluminium roof lanterns. I like to do most of my work during the day in that room. We also have French doors in our living room which helps as well. I like to chill in the room as it is always bright and alive.

 

Get out of the house

The school run takes me out of the house every weekday. I have also started driving lessons, that gets me out as well. I also may sure I go out at least once a week outside of the school run times for a few hours. Getting out of the house means I get to take in as much fresh air as possible, which clears my head and mind.

 

Meditation

Like I mentioned in this post, I have started meditating and I am loving it. I now sleep better and feel great. If you don’t meditate, I would advise you try it. It is great to just sit up and do nothing, think of nothing and just listen to the sounds around you. I didn’t think I would like it as much as I do, but I cannot imagine never meditating now. It has become a nightly ritual.

 

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Burn a candle

I love candles and I like to have them in my home. Yankee Candles are my current favourites. Candles have a way of relaxing me and the scent of my candles help me deal with the winter blues.

 

Listening to music

I would be lost without my Spotify app on my phone. I listen to some of my favourite tracks on there everyday. Music is like food to my soul and it can help me deal with anything.

 

How are you dealing with the winter blues? Do you have any tips to share?

 

 

4 Things You Need to Know Before You Go for Couple Therapy

January 15, 2019 By in Lifestyle Tags: , , , , , 16 Comments

Relationships are hard work. Both parties have to continue to give the relationship all they have in other for it to thrive. If one person is on board, and the other really isn’t, there is no way the relationship would survive. A good relationship can do wonders for our mental health, which is why it is so very important. Couple therapy can help save a relationship, and that explains why it is very popular today.

 

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Life is so busy with the endless work, commuting, childcare, and all the other responsibilities we have as adults. Sometimes, we forget to nurture our relationships. If your relationship is struggling, some couples therapy may be all it needs to bring the spark back to life. Here are 4 things you need to know before you go for couple therapy.

 

Make sure the Therapist is qualified

Before starting the therapy sessions, you should ensure the therapist is qualified to provide the services. The last thing you would want is having to waste your time with a half-baked counselor/therapist. Apart from the fact that you would both be wasting your time with an unqualified therapist, you won’t want to take on the wrong advice. So it is best to ensure the Therapist is qualified before you sign up for any sessions.

 

Set money aside

I am all about budgeting this year, so this tip shouldn’t surprise my regular readers. Once you are sure of the qualifications of the Therapist, you need to set some money aside for your sessions. You both need to decide on how much you are willing to spend on the counseling, and stick to your budget. It makes sense to set aside a realistic amount to cover the costs of the sessions, so you don’t end using a form of credit to pay up. Having a budget for your couple counseling that allows some room for flexibility is the way to go.

 

Have an initial session

You both need to see if you like your Therapist’s way of counseling. Having an initial session to check this is recommended. Counseling is a very personal experience. You would be answering very personal questions, so you need to like your therapist and be very comfortable. If not, it would be a waste of time and money.  You both also need to know the Therapist’s views on marriages and relationships, and ensure it sits well with both parties.

 

 

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Make sure you are both willing

This takes us back to the first thing I mentioned on here. You both need to be willing to put in the work for any relationship or marriage to work. The same goes for couple counselling. Both parties need to be willing to go for couple counselling and do all it takes to better the relationship. If one is on board and the other isn’t, it would be a waste of time. Communication is very important, and you need to communicate properly even more when you are undergoing couple counseling. Without communication, the therapy would be dead before it even starts.

 

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