The Loneliness of the Self Employed

I went full-time as a self-employed person about 2 years ago, and I can testify first-hand to how lonely a career it can be. Being a freelancer/self-employed person usually means you work from home alone, and some days can be a lot harder than others, even for the introverts.

 

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I have always been an introvert, I am very comfortable being by myself, and I do enjoy being alone most of the time. But sometimes I miss the chit-chat and the buzz that goes on in a regular workplace; being able to have meetings, bounce off ideas, and just the usual office banter. Just so you know, I was not a fan of any of these things when I had my normal job, but I guess sometimes we humans miss things we don’t have, even if we don’t really like it. Why we do, I don’t know, we just do.

The loneliness of being a freelancer is real, so I won’t advise anyone who enjoys being in the company of others to go self-employed, except you have a form of working arrangement that involves working or meeting regularly with other self-employed people in your niche.

There are ways to deal with the loneliness and frustrations of the self-employed world, here is how I deal with them –

 

Have a sounding board

Having a sounding board is very important when you are self-employed. A sounding board is someone you trust who would listen to your achievements, frustrations, and just someone you can have a chat with about your work, and who can offer you good advice as well. The more sounding boards you have, the better. I have one main sounding board, and a few others. They all help keep me sane. Whenever I feel like having a rant, I know I can trust them to listen. It also feels great to share milestones and achievements with them.

 

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Take regular breaks

Regular breaks are very important when you work alone from home, because you can easily find yourself working continuously on your coach, without taking a break for hours. Taking breaks means you get to do other things which is great for your mental health and fitness life. Taking regular breaks also means you can leave the house for a walk, which is great because you get to interact with others while you are at it.

I try to go for long walks everyday, and I love how fit I am. My Fitbit stats speak for itself.

 

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Working in coffee shops

Working in coffee shops also help combat the loneliness and isolation. I personally find working in coffee shops very distracting, so I tend not to do this, but I know many who do and enjoy it.

 

Joining Facebook groups and Twitter chats

I have joined a couple of Facebook blogging and freelance groups, and I also try to take part in as many Twitter chats as I can. These groups and chats help combat the isolation.

 

Overall, working from home works well for me. I won’t change my flexible working conditions for anything, but some days I need to have my Spotify playlists on repeat to get rid of the silence.

 

Do you work from home? How do you deal with the loneliness?

 

 

 

 

Product Review: KTC Pure Almond Oil

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I wrote about the many Hair Oils available some weeks ago, and the best Hair Oils for growth. Well I have been experimenting with a few new hair oils to discover the best hair oil for our hair (that is myself and my baby girl).

I have used quite a few already, but I was not 100% sold on any until I tried this KTC Pure Almond Oil.

 

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Pure, undiluted Almond Oil is the best for my hair and my daughter’s hair. I have only good things to say about this amazing hair oil. It is so good that I have had to buy 2 more bottles immediately, just so I don’t run out.

Here is a brief product description –

  • ALMOND OIL AS COOKING OIL This oil was extracted from sweet almonds, it is quite clear, pale yellow, low viscosity and mild pure flavor, so it comes as high-quality edible oil used. It is suitable for fresh salads, fruit salads, sauces and sweet dishes, also for frying or for fondue. In Indian cuisine, it is considered a “staple”.

  • OR FOR PERSONAL HYGIENE It is also suitable for a natural, native and mild type of skin care. It is neutral in odor – without chemical additives. Because it is quickly absorbed into the skin like almond oil, used as body and massage oil.

 

 

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PROS
  1. It is a great multi-tasking oil. Fabulous for moisturising he skin (I add it to my regular lotion), conditioning he hair (I use it in my spray bottle with some water), and cooking.
  2. It is pure, undiluted oil. No chemicals, no fragrance.
  3. It is so affordable at only £3.20 for a 200ml botle.
  4. It is readily affordable on eBay, Amazon, Superdrug and many other online stores and regular shops.
  5. It feels great on my skin. It absorbs quickly, leaving my skin feeling moisturised and looking smooth.
  6. It is so good for our hair. I have noticed a massive growth in our hair, especially my daughter’s, since we started using it.

 

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CONS

None.

This product is THE TRUTH! I can’t see myself using any other kind of oil. I have used them all, Coconut Oil, Olive Oil; and this Almond Oil is the best oil by far. I love it. My natural hair has had a full transformation. I am still transitioning, but I can see my hair fully transitioned in about 3 months.

 

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What are your thoughts on Almond Oil? Have you tried it before?

 

How to Shop Vintage

Shopping vintage is now in vogue. I know many people who shop vintage on a monthly basis in search for the next investment piece/accessory.

 

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If you like to shop vintage, you may find these tips useful –

 

Take your time

Take your time when you go shopping for vintage items. You have to be patient and happy to go through the many rails instead of the next treasure. It is unlikely you would be able to return a vintage item, so take your time, try it on and make sure you are very happy with the item(s).

 

Go for investment pieces

Go for investment pieces if you can afford to. They stand the test of time, and do not lose their value over the years. I would only shop vintage investment pieces. I don’t see the point in shopping vintage for anything less, except it is a gem.

 

Go for classics

Go for classic vintage pieces in classic shapes and colours. This way you can get the maximum wear out of the pieces from year to year.

 

Get the time right

Timing is everything when it comes to many things, and vintage shopping is no exception. The best time to shop vintage is after Christmas and New Year celebrations; and at the end of every season. Getting the time right means you would grab the best vintage items before anyone.

 

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Go for the highest quality

When it comes to vintage, the highest quality is the best to buy. Take a good look at every item before you buy, and aim to go for the highest quality items. Natural fabrics are the best. They hang better, last longer and look great.

 

Understand vintage language

Understanding the vintage language is very important especially when shopping vintage online. For example “mint condition” means the item is as good as new, while “good condition” means the item is wearable but with flaws. Understanding the vintage lingo would help you get the right picture of the state of the item.

 

Be careful online

I love shopping online but I am always careful when buying anything that is not from a regular high street or designer brand. I am usually more careful shopping the less popular/independent/marketplace sellers online. So I won’t advise anyone to shop vintage online. I think vintage is best bought in the flesh.

 

What are your thoughts on vintage shopping? Do you have any tips to share?

 

 

 

 

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