Growing a thick skin as a blogger

Being a blogger opens you up to all sorts. You get the admirers and the trolls. The great comments, the shades and the in your face insults. The job comes with both as we expose our creation (whatever it may be) to the whole world. So if there is one thing you need to have or work on asap as a blogger, is to grow a thick skin. Blogging is not only about writing. You have to spent a good amount of time promoting your blog and social media platforms, especially in the early days.

 

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Putting your blog out there is essential in order to make a name for yourself. These actions usually attracts more eyeballs to your blog, which is a good thing. But then the trolls find you, and if you are not strong enough, the rude comments may stop you blogging altogether.

 

Growing a thick skin as a blogger

So how do you grow a thick skin as a blogger. I have been blogging for almost 6 years now and I have had a few rude comments but not as many as I thought I would if I am being completely honest. Which is a good thing I guess. I had most of the trolls in the first year of my blog, which I found surprising. I guess their aim was to kill the little confidence I had in my blog back then. I also have a feeling some of the trolls knew me in real life, which I find really sad for them.

 

Here are three ways you could grow a thick as a blogger.

 

Carry on anyway

I know how hard it can be. But the key to growing a thick skin as a blogger is to ignore the negative comments and carry on anyway. Delete any rude comment and block any troll on your social media platform. There is no need trying to have a conversation with them. The only aim of the troll is to make you feel bad about yourself and what you do. And that is because they feel bad about themselves. Don’t let them project their negative thoughts on you. Ignore them, use the delete.block option and carry on anyway.

 

Work on your self-confidence

In order to be a successful blogger you have to work on your self-confidence. This bit is very important. If you have no self-confidence, you wouldn’t be able to carry on anyway when the negative comments start rolling in. Once you have self-confidence and believe in your work, no one can get to you as much as they would if you don’t have any. You have the key to your self-confidence, use it.

 

Don’t take things personally

It is incredibly hard to not take things personal when people are nasty towards you, but you must learn not to. Nasty people live nasty lives which is why that is all they can give. Do not let them project their frustrations and bitterness on to you. Instead see right through them and keep it moving. Do not entertain or engage their negative energy.

 

What are your thoughts on growing a thick skin?

Outfit Post – Loving Summer Fashion

It feels like this summer has gone on forever. I started rocking my summer pieces since April this year. The heat wave has been on and off since then and it feels like this has this has been the longest summer ever. It is definitely the longest summer I have ever experienced in the UK. I am grateful I am able to wear a lot of my summer pieces. I hear the heat wave would be on and off until October, which is great new for summer lovers. Summer fashion has been giving me life this year and I am not in a hurry for that bit to go away. I am seriously loving the summer pieces in the stores and my outfit post category on Fashion and Style Police has been very busy.

 

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I am wearing this stunning Rose Cami Strap Maxi Dress – Serenna. This beauty landed on my doorstep some weeks ago and it has been worn twice already! I love the design of the dress a lot. And I think the colour is really pretty too! Definitely a perfect piece for a cooler summer day. It was very easy to style and dead comfy too! It is one of those pieces you throw on when you can’t be bothered to think too much about accessories, because it goes with almost everything.

This stunning maxi dress features cami straps with a bodycon fit. The flattering body hugging style is right up my street. It is definitely a season must-have!

 

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What do you think of this look? Do you wear a lot of maxi dresses? Are you loving summer fashion as much as I am? Sound off in the comments section, let’s chat. Thanks for stopping by.

 

What I Wore

Rose Cami Strap Maxi Dress – Serenna – c/o Femme Luxe

Leopard Print Sandals – Sam Edelman

Bag – KNOMO London

Sunnies – Gucci

Earrings – Dubai Gold Souk

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How to get your kids off the dummy/pacifier

I hear a lot of talk about dummies and how hard it can be to get children off them. Which is what prompted this post. I needed to share my experience with how I got the kids off the dummy.

The kiddies were huge fans of the dummy. They had the dummy from the newborn stage and took to it immediately. It worked for all of us back then. They were quite demanding as babies and the dummy helped soothe them. But when it came to getting rid of the dummy, they refused to stop! My son refused the dummy at 3 months, and took to his fingers instead (that is a story for a whole new post by the way). But my daughter fell helplessly in love with her pacifier and it was hard work getting her off it. She even had a name for her dummies. They were called “baby”. It was that serious.

 

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I remember frantically googling up ways to get kids off the dummy and trying almost every trick in the book with no luck. I succeeded in getting her off it during the day quickly but nighttime was the tricky bit, as she was used to falling asleep sucking it. So I decided to think outside the box. Taking it away from her was pointless as she would just scream and cry until she had to back at night. I decided the only way to get her off the dummy successfully was to get her to reject it herself. I needed to make the pacifier not as “delicious” as she thought it was.

 

How to get your kids off the dummy/pacifier

Here are the steps I took to wean my daughter off her precious pacifier.

 

Get rid of all the dummies but one

I got rid of all the dummies and kept her least favourite one. I remember telling her the dummies were old and had to go, or something along those lines.

 

Make the pacifier unappealing

Once we were down to just one pacifier, I then had to make it unappealing. I needed her to reject it by herself and with no prompt from me. My daughter is very feisty. So I had to play dumb for this to work. I soak the pacifier in a lemon juice concentrate for a few hours before bedtime. And then when she asked for it, I gave her the lemon juice soaked pacifier. Her reaction was that of confusion at first, which then led to frustration. She couldn’t understand why her precious “baby” tasted different. It had a sour taste as you can imagine and she didn’t want any of it.

Just a quick note, she was 2 when I did this. I won’t recommend you do this if you have a younger child.

 

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Get ready for the hard work

On the first night, my dear daughter woke up every few hours asking for her dummy, which I happily offered. Only for her to reject it again because of the sour taste. It worked like magic but the first two nights were hard because she kept waking asking for it, only to reject and ask for it in a few hours. I guess she kept thinking it would taste different every time. Or maybe she was too sleepy to recall the sour taste. On night no 3, I gave her the dummy first and she told me she didn’t want it anymore. She never asked for it again and went back to sleeping through the night.

 

I would recommend the lemon juice tip for any parent thinking of getting toddler (2 years and above) off the dummy/pacifier. It worked quickly for my daughter. And I am sure it would work great for many others as well.

 

Did you struggle to get your kids off the dummy/pacifier? Please share your experience in the comments section below.

Thanks for reading.

 

 

 

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